The door bell rings, and my dogs explode into a cycle of agitation and pompousness: “Who could it be? Jeffrey Dahmer? Billy Graham? Gloria Estefan? Who cares! We love the sound of our own voices!” It is a pitiful yowling hysteria, though they think it a thunderously dignified display. My dogs love the sound of their own voice (like humans), although I suspect if I recorded it and played it back they wouldn’t love it any more (also like humans). ShuddUP! SHUDDUP! I gingerly wade through the furry waves of dog towards the front door and open it.
It’s my cousin Angela. Her sweatshirt, earrings and eyeshadow are all turquoise – a color made for tropical waters and fifth grade girls. Angela is not a fifth grade girl, though sometimes it seems like it. She’s twenty-two, but doesn’t learn at the same speed as others her age. The condition has some repugnantly polite name, nearly as repugnantly polite as calling it a condition. But I prefer to imagine all her blood deciding to stay home, in the heart, and not travel to the head. This is better, really, I believe it makes her a better person. And she’s so beautiful. She’s a beautiful men can’t quite fantasize about, because they’d feel guilty afterward.
When we were young she was the only one with the mad imagination, farcical tendencies and preference for all forms of exaggerated feminity that matched my own. We wanted to be Vera-Ellen in White Christmas (She’s so thin because she’s always dancing. We must always keep dancing.) or Ariel in The Little Mermaid (Ways I Am Like Ariel: 1. Red hair! 2. Female-fish anatomy?) Within two minutes together, our jog pants and T-shirts would be converted to whorish hyperbole, including pink plastic heels and feather boas. Then we’d get out her tea set and promise to be careful with every intention not to be. Cups were filled with water (her mother’s idea) then tipped over/thrown/dropped as quickly as possible, then refilled again. We seemed to fall out of chairs more than we sat in them. We called it “crazy tea party,” adding an unwitting anti-British element to playtime.
This was all before Love blew a spitwad in her eye, which slid down her cheek, impersonating tears in a way that was vicious, not funny. You would think Love would pick a little man to be the pilot of that spitwad. She didn’t. He was tall. Taahll. Tuawwl. In any accent he was tall. A man who was much older than her. That much had a mouth full of years, a potbelly of years, pockets stuffed with years. The years were a dare; a do-it-now-or-you’re-not-alive dare. The years were a functional alcoholic:
- I can do this.
- I’m in control.
- I feel fabulous.
- I feel fucking fabulous.
- I’m God.
- No, I’m David Bowie.
I don’t know if that’s how she felt, but I know that’s how I felt, the first time I met him. Not her former him, my former him. He respected our age difference, respected me, respected himself. Respect is such a good strategy it doesn’t need a strategy. “I’m a lot older than you,” he said. “No you’re not,” I said.
Angela met her former him for coffee the other day, which made her father’s red face get even redder. So red that looking at it makes your heart beat faster, makes you want to eat more vegetables. Why so red, father? Because I’m Italian, and I have high blood pressure, and MY DAUGHTER TRIED TO KILL HERSELF OVER THIS MAN.
She tried to kill herself.
It was fantastically ineffective.
Thank God’s nose hairs, his eyelashes, his toenails for that.
It was phenomenally unsuccessful because of Angela’s boating accident in the birth canal. Her skull was hurt, so the skull took it out on the brain, and the brain took it out on logic. Anyway, when the time had come for trying to kill herself, she opted for drinking laundry detergent. Isn’t she spectacular? If she hadn’ t had that pre-birth business, she would have done something more logical and conclusive – perhaps leaning too far over a ledge…and I do appreciate her picking something outside of social acceptability, not to mention the determination. Her taste buds must have cringed with courteous disgust through the introductions: Oh, hi, Alkyl phenoxy polyethoxy ethanols, It’s nice to meet you, Xylene sulfonate. Ultimately, though, anything’s preferable to lying in front of a lawnmower (“What are you doing?” “Oh hi.” “Yes, hi. Could you move? I don’t want to run over you.” “You know it’s really fine. Just go ahead, you’ve got to get this lawn mowed.” “Your life is more important than grass. Anyway, it’s not that long.” “Well, it is. You almost didn’t see me. You almost didn’t stop.” “Uh, okay. Actually there’s a good twenty feet – were you trying to kill yourself or not?”).
Angela formed a business partnership with prescription medication, and they got through it together, ended up in the black. So she asked her former him to meet her for coffee. He treated her with an unfeeling friendliness, like you would a postal worker. Angela braved the pleasantries. They said goodbye, he indifferently, she intensely. This is how things end, she thought, with nothing at all. She came home to her mother. Her mother, who raised Angela like she was a full bowl of tomato soup being carried across white carpeting, careful, I can do this, carefully.
We do not talk about any of this, standing in the front hallway. My dogs are loving her now, with their tongues, paws, ears, tails. She is smiling at them, and at me, with big eyes that are even brighter than her eyeshadow.
The sheer range and number of sentiments in each of your paragraphs leaves me breathless. Sometimes it reminds me of the film, “The Man Who Fell to Earth,” speaking of David Bowie. I’m not sure if this post is meant to be a true story, it’s poignant if it is, but in any case it is a fine piece of writing. You should write novels, Sir!
I love Angela. Each time I meet her it’s always just as delightful. I think we’ve meet ‘for the first time’ three times now. Lol.
I was wondering how it would work with him being her mentor. It just seems like it’s that much more invading since it didn’t work.
The torment appears resolved in the final sentence, your metaphor here never more suitable than now. And she does have very bright eyes. When you said ‘Angela’ the other day, I had not remembered the one we went to school with, which explains the question I asked you after you mentioned her. Remembering her now, more fully, I see you have not lost your ability to sum up a life and character in a few pithy paragraphs as accurately as Monet can a universe of sunsets.
Hey Ben, I’ve just stumbled on your writing after abandoning xanga so long ago (xanga.com/funnyface82) and I have to say yippee! I have sorely missed reading your sublime words. … And sorry about missing you in May when you were in NY. I’m a moron and completely forgot to check my xanga account. It would’ve been sweet to meet! Apparently your note did get lost in the wind … or something like that. 🙂 I have been a creative dead-end for the last two years (i.e. insanely busy with work), so it’s refreshing to read your posts and remember my blogging days. 🙂 I hope to get back to it soon.
I had a wonderful time chatting with you over peppermint tea. (You left very abruptly, you know, almost mid-sentence! I like to imagine it in literary/cinematic terms, like a cliffhanger! To be continued (dum dum duuuuum!))
I told your mom the next day at church, “I just love your son!”
time to update, sugar nips.